Situations repeat to make us pay attention to them.
Once we have noticed a recurring situation we are already at 80% understanding
When we encounter difficulty
If we pay attention to the difficulty, treat it, do emotional work, and cope with it - the repetitive situations will decrease and not repeat themselves.
If we ignore, do not relate, do not take responsibility, blame others - the repetitive situations will come back and with greater intensity.
When a situation repeats itself we should:
1. Identify what is coming back.
2. See and understand in depth what needs to change and what emotion it evokes in us.
3. Do an act.